SELF-CRITICISM

"Some people criticize, mostly themselves, but they criticize a lot because they are trying to fulfill the expectations of people in their childhood. They cannot do that because their childhood is gone. They have to work with who they are now, not who they were then. And who they are now needs to be a loving gentle soul. Being quiet and not saying much is not necessarily being a gentle soul – it’s just stuffing it down. They need to let it out a little at a time in kindness to themselves. Don’t look at things and judge. Nobody is wise enough to judge another – indeed, not enough to judge themselves. So let softness, let gentleness, be the intent. And they will find things come very much better for them.”

10/18/2024 Blog. Nq-on Kar, A Tibetan Master, TRUE DETACHMENT FROM ILLUSION, April 29-21, 2013, Pg. 18. Copyright © 2013 Rev. Penny Donovan and Donald Gilbert. All rights reserved. Photo: ID 191321917 © Andrei ASKIRKA | Dreamstime.com

UNAPPRECIATED

"Suppose you’re the sort of person who has a lot to give and gives it out, but more-often-than-not feels unappreciated. And when you feel unappreciated, that lets in a little bit of guilt, a little bit of ‘Maybe I said it wrong…maybe I didn’t do that right…maybe I was misunderstood…’ instead of thinking that, when you give, give from the heart and never mind how it turns out. Never mind how it turns out. If the person listens to you, good! If he doesn’t, let it be. We never can know what is best for another. You don’t even know what’s best for you! So, a good idea is to give it in love, and let God take care of the results.”

10/16/2024 Blog. Nq-on Kar, A Tibetan Master, TRUE DETACHMENT FROM ILLUSION, April 29-21, 2013, Pg. 17. Copyright © 2013 Rev. Penny Donovan and Donald Gilbert. All rights reserved. Photo: ID 315702371 © Info11778 | Dreamstime.com

Being Judged

"There are those people who feel that people are judging them when they are not. They are judging themselves, and they project it out to others. Most people who know them like them a lot. But they find things in themselves that they think people don’t like. So they tend to keep people at a little bit of a distance. They need to open and let them in and not see things in themselves that they think others see. They will find they will be much happier.”

10/14/2024 Blog. Nq-on Kar, A Tibetan Master, TRUE DETACHMENT FROM ILLUSION, April 29-21, 2013, Pg. 16. Copyright © 2013 Rev. Penny Donovan and Donald Gilbert. All rights reserved. Photo: ID 227418833 © Benzoix | Dreamstime.com