"Some of you have been so battered as children as to feel that you are a bad person today. Part of you thinks of yourself as a victim, part of you thinks of yourself as a willing partner, and part of you thinks you can rise above it, and sometimes you get all those three things going on at the same time. Now, can you rise above it? Absolutely you can. …So it would be a good thing for you, each time the old feeling of guilt comes back, for you to say, ‘That little child was innocent. I was good and did nothing wrong.’ You were a good child, you are a good child. You need to keep that in mind because your ego likes to drag that little child out and beat that child up in front of you. …So do something to save that little child because you are the only one who can – and that means to consistently tell yourself, ‘You were good. You are good.’”
...You know children who grow up in households where they never hear a kind word or never hear any kind of praise – those are formative years in which the mind is conditioned to believe certain things. And if what the child hears is, if not out-and-out condemning, then at least not encouraging, the child grows up to believe that they are unworthy, that they cannot give love because they never got any. So how do they know what it is? There are good people who don’t know how to love. Do they have love in them? Absolutely! But how to get it out? If you can get the love out with service, that is good. But let it back in. And that’s what you need to do.” Pgs. 13-15
09/22/2024 Blog. Nq-on Kar, A Tibetan Master, TRUE DETACHMENT FROM ILLUSION, April 29-21, 2013, Pg. 8. Copyright © 2013 Rev. Penny Donovan and Donald Gilbert. All rights reserved. Photo (c) Allexxe - Dreamstime.com
